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"Conversion Therapy": From Straight to Gay

My friend, Ryan Neugebauer, posted a piece from People magazine, "Conversion Therapy Founder Comes Out Publicly as Gay After 20 Years of Leading Homophobic Program," which I've shared on my Facebook Timeline. I stated there:

As I commented on this thread, posted by Ryan Neugebauer, there is a similarly sad story portrayed in the book "Boy Erased," a memoir by Garrard Conley, and adapted into a well-received 2018 film starring Russell Crowe, Nicole Kidman, and Lucas Hedges.
In "Boy Erased," the character Victor Sykes, based upon real-life "conversion therapist", John Smid, underwent his own similar "conversion" to same-sex relationships---after all the damage he'd done. Indeed, prior to this self-realization, he had been "director of the Memphis, Tennessee ex-gay ministry Love In Action, a group that claims to convert lesbians and gay men to heterosexuality," as a Wikipedia entry states. In his memoir, "Ex'd Out," he admits to having "wounded" many young teens during his years at "Love in Action." The entry on Smid states: "In 2011, three years after leaving Love In Action and stepping down from its leadership, Smid announced he was still homosexual and stated he had 'never met a man who experienced a change from homosexual to heterosexual.'" Further:
"In the 2018 film 'Boy Erased', based on the book of the same name, the character Victor Sykes, portrayed by Joel Edgerton, is based on Smid.
"A November 2018 Radiolab podcast titled "UnErased: Smid" features Smid's life story. Before claiming he had changed from homosexuality to heterosexuality, Smid lived for years married to a woman and fathering children. It was during this marriage that he realized he was gay, divorcing his wife in 1980. Four years following his divorce, Smid became a Christian and sought conversion from homosexuality to heterosexuality. In November 2014, Smid married his same-sex partner, Larry McQueen. The couple live in Texas."

When will these folks ever learn the first principle of healing from the "Hippocratic Oath": "First, do no harm"?

Or as Johnny Fontaine, played by Al Martino, sings in "Godfather III": "To Each His Own" [YouTube link] (the Livingston-Evans song, with an Italian twist, is more like "Salsiccia His Own"... translated colloquially as "to each his own sausage", no pun intended!)

Ed.: In response to one critic who argued that my "worldview" blinded me to the ways in which children are "indoctrinated" into being gay, I wrote a series of replies:

Before I begin, I am not adopting any "worldview" in this post; I'm discussing how certain folks involved themselves in so-called "conversion therapy" that has destroyed lives---including the lives of those who ostensibly were trying to do the "conversions."
Now, confusion and evolution are human conditions; what you say about folks who might be confused and who engage in same-sex activity is just as applicable to folks who might be confused and who engage in opposite-sex activity, when in reality, they have a same-sex orientation. In fact, I suspect that the proportion of folks doing the latter is far greater than those doing the former. That's where the very notion of "living in the closet" came from. Culture, religion, conventional parental upbringing, etc., favor heterosexual relations, and it takes a lot for individuals who are experiencing same-sex feelings to face potential rejection from loved ones, fear of social acceptance, and even fear of self-acceptance, should they act on these feelings.
I also believe that you have to distinguish between an orientation and behavior; just because a man is able to marry a woman and have children does not make him a heterosexual---not if he's spending all his spare time "in the closet" looking at gay pornography or engaged in self-destructive actions (often manifesting themselves in substance abuse, etc.) to repress feelings that are part of who he is.
And just because adolescent experimentation often spills over into same-sex interaction does not mean that the adolescent is "gay" through-and-through.
Personally, I believe that there is much more fluidity to human sexuality than most people are comfortable to admit.

This was followed by yet another exchange that provoked this response from me:

Do you honestly think that children are being "indoctrinated" into being gay? Please do tell. I'd like to meet these kids. If you're referring to the actions, say, of priests who abuse children, and how these kids emerge from their time as altar boys as drug addicts and psychologically damaged---that's got nothing to do with indoctrination and everything to do with criminality.
But I've never met anyone who was "indoctrinated" into being gay. I think the socialization process that goes on throughout childhood is complex, but the deck is way stacked against kids who are "different."
And why on earth would anyone choose to engage in an activity that is condemned by virtually every religion, and that is still illegal in over seventy countries worldwide, which have used imprisonment, flogging, and torture to punish those who are different---and in ten of those countries, such behavior is punishable by execution by stoning, hanging, beheading, or being thrown off buildings as official government policy, legitimized by various states' interpretations of Islamic law?
It seems to me the most significant conspiracies that have been advanced worldwide are the ones mounted against those who express the "love that dare not speak its name"---and who have paid with their lives.

Yet another exchange was provoked, in which the critic insisted that I was still blind to gay "indoctrination" that led to a disproportionate number of kids engaging in same-sex activities because they were being "exposed to propaganda" and that "most gay men report some sort of abuse scenario in their childhood." (As an aside: the data on this is not as clear as the critic thinks: most gay men were not molested as boys and men who were molested as boys do not necessarily "become" gay. One thing is fairly certain: among the most socially abused and bullied members of our society, one finds that one in four pre-teen suicides are LGBTQ-related, a catastrophic indication that, "propaganda" to the contrary, those who are perceived as "different" are disproportionately victims, rather than victimizers.) Somewhat fed-up with the continuing exchange, I gave this final response:

Do you have any clue what you're talking about? I mean, truly? Every cultural signal that bombards every child from the moment they are brought into this world is of a heterosexual nature. We are taught by virtually every religion that homosexuality is immoral. Just because the government now applies equal protection under the law to folks who are gay who serve in the armed forces and would like to get married legally does not mean that the entire culture has changed into this massive Gay Onslaught!
The whole celebration of the fiftieth anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion was about basic individual rights. It wasn't about ramming down your throat, or anybody else's, the idea that everybody should be gay. This is the last I'll have to say about the matter and we'll have to agree to disagree.

Boy, this subject really does get folks riled up. Sheesh.