You may ask, "How far must I go in adapting to the United States?" Students wonder whether they must take on all aspects of this culture, whether they can maintain their own, or if there is a way to balance the two. There are two extreme responses to a new culture. At one end, total rejection, is the person who refuses to make any changes. People who are not willing to try new foods, to learn a new language, to change daily habits, find it difficult if not impossible to function in a new country. They sometimes want to return home immediately, since they are so uncomfortable having to deal with so many new experiences.

At the other end, complete assimilation, is the person who adapts to the degree where it seems that the new culture is the native culture. Almost everyone eventually finds a position somewhere between the two extremes, and it is unusual to find a person at either end of the scale. How much you adapt depends on you. You will probably adopt some things about this country and reject others.

Suggestions that may facilitate your adjustment:

• Learn and observe. A word or phrase or gesture that means something in your country could mean some thing very different here. Watch how people greet each other, how they express disagreement, if communication styles change when talking to a professor versus a friend.
• Try not to judge. You will see many things different from your culture. It is important not to label everything as good or bad. Most customs, habits, and ideas are simply different from what you have known before.
• Show a sense of humor. It is very likely that you will make mistakes as you explore the United States. Laughing at your mistakes can help you learn from them, and other people will offer a friendly response.
• Become involved. The more you put into an experience, the more you will learn from it. Make an effort to meet people, form friendships, and participate in activities.